This is Day 5 of 31 Days to Start a Freelancing Business (or Make Yours a Better One). Click here to read Day 1.
Yesterday’s task was a bit heavy, I’ll have to admit. So today, we’ll lighten up things a bit. It’s going to be very interesting, and I can’t wait to hear your thoughts about it!
Why Tell Your Story
Stories are powerful. We’ve been trained from childhood to listen to stories. We find them relaxing and engaging. When somebody starts to tell a story, we almost fall into a trance and in the mood to listen.
When I was working in children’s television, we often used stories to teach children important concepts – without them knowing they were learning something!
Finally, personal stories are crucial for bonding. What do you do on a date? You tell each other stories!
Same thing with attracting clients. You want your prospective clients to get to know you, so that they’ll learn to like you and trust you enough to hire you. Believe me, we’re only humans. We always choose to work with people we like and are familiar with.
What’s Your Story?
Today you’re going to write down your story. Don’t have a story, you think? Start by answering these questions:
- What were you doing before you started freelancing? (Or what are you doing now while you’re freelancing at the same time?)
- Why did you think of freelancing? What motivated you?
- How did you get started freelancing?
- How did you get good at what you’re doing now?
- What are your goals? What drives you to work so hard?
- What does success look like to you?
When you first write your story, do so without editing. Don’t worry about it getting too long, or that you’re putting too many details and revealing too much about yourself. As in previous tasks, write until you’ve exhausted every thought you have that’s related to the activity. You can edit and pare down everything later.
If you’re not a writer and find this too difficult, try saying your story out loud. You can record audio with this free software.
If you like, you can take a break for a few minutes (or do some freelancing work in between) and go back to your story with a fresh eye.
Now re-read your story. Watch out for key themes that stand out at you. Which details do you think will resonate well with your target clients? Keep those details in. Don’t disclose more than you’re comfortable with. This is your story and you’re in complete control.
But whatever you do, don’t lie.
When you’re happy with what you’ve written, take another break and reward yourself with a latte or a slice of apple pie
You’ve been working hard and you deserve it!
But wait – we’re not done yet…
How to Use Your Story
If you already have a blog or website, publish your story in your “About” page. You can also use a 5-sentence version of your story for author bios, if you guest blog or write for other sites.
If not, just keep your story on file for now. You’ll definitely be using it a lot later on.
I Know What You’re Thinking
Didn’t write your story? Think your life is too boring? Or worried you’ll actually turn your prospective clients off instead of attracting them to hire you?
Don’t worry, I get this a lot – even from my clients who already have successful online businesses.
Let me reassure you. Your story will only sound boring to you and to clients who aren’t your ideal clients anyway.
Oh, and I think you should know: you’ll be telling your story so often that you’ll get pretty sick of it. Expect it and don’t be surprised or stressed out when it happens.
And, another thing: you can always tweak and revise and improve your story as you go along. It isn’t set in stone.
So, why are you still sitting there reading? Go and write your story! And then come back and post your comments below. Include a link, if you want feedback.
PS: In case you’re curious, you can read my story here. I wrote it many months ago, and I’ll be revising it soon.









Your story sounding boring only to clients who aren’t your ideal ones is an excellent point too crucial to be missed, Lexi!
“Pre-qualifying” potential clients is a great way to maximize your success – and stop you from wasting time on a relationship that’s not going to work for either of you. And this is a great way to add to your pre-qualifying system.
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I like this, and I grew up listening to stories from my grandpa and my dad so I know what you mean when people like stories. It’s true, a well written story is quite fascinating.
I have a bit of my own story on my portfolio site. I think it could be improved though what do you think?
http://www.whoischrisanderson.com
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Hey Chris, I checked out your story. It was nice getting to know you better – see?
I’d like to know more about the non-writing part of your life. What else makes Chris Anderson tick? What are your passions and what drives you?
Awesome start, though!
Lexi
Awesome, thanks for checking that out. I’ll add a little more to it. I find that when I get something down and come back to it later, I add some more to it. For some reason it doesn’t all come out at once. But I think I may take your story idea and run with it though.
Thanks again.
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thanks Lexi,
I’ve been writing my own story. I use a free writing technique using WriteMonkey, which is a text editor that gives a distraction free environment and Focus Booster which is a timer app. So I just write for 10 minutes, then I leave it until next day to edit.
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@paul – Thanks for sharing! I’ve heard about both, but only use Focus Booster when I do my own version of the Pomodoro Technique.
Hi Lexi, I think I’ve done my unedited story…just don’t know how I can share it to you without having my website yet. Any suggestions?
Cheers! =)
@Yan – Please share your link here when your website is up. Thanks!
Thanks for the info on the free software for recording your voice – I was looking at Dragon, but can’t afford it right now – this software looks like just what I need – Thanks again!
Bonnie
Just had to let you know that the question What’s your story? that you proposed in this lesson started off a landslide response that has really and truly helped me get at what my passion really is. So needed that. Thanks Lexi!
@Meg Stewart – So awesome to hear that, meg! Thanks for letting me know and I hope you stop by often
Writing my story helped me a lot to find a coherence in my previous choices and my current freelance project : I am a very curious person, always willing to understand more about what I hear or read, or about the people I meed. To sum it up, I am a kind of explorer (although I would not have defined myself as such a few months ago). Which has led me to walk on various professional roads, that could be seen as “diverging” at a first glance.
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But your exercise actually helped me find coherence and meaning in my professional history. It’s a very useful exercise !
Lexi, If I succeed in the future, you will definitely have something to do with it
@Marie-Ange: I admire your determination to keep working through the exercises. And thank you very much for keeping me up to date on your progress. I am so touched by your kind words. They make keeping this blog worthwhile
[...] Day 5. What’s Your Story? [...]
About me…
Hi Alexis, please tell me what you think? …
My story is not that much different to an other person who’s being in the working world.
I studied Graphic Design and graduated afte 3 years with a National Diploma.
Got my first job as a clothing label designer … ok ok… it wasnt as fab as that sentence just sounded. In fact, it was pretty horrible.
Then I got a job as a designer for a top notch property company … again, not as fab. But met some fab people there
Next I got a job at a magazine company … a travel magazine … starting to see the ‘fab’ pattern yet? Yep! the dream job I thought turned into a nightmare.
I’m a hard worker with passion for values in the workplace. Some thought that threatening whilst others embraced it… which leads me to my next job… a book designer, and for once I can say Yep! it IS a fab job! But at the same time I have to say that freelancing never attracted me … until now.
My motivation is simple: find what you love and are good at, and never give up on it.
I love book design (never actually knew that until today), but I love my family alot more. Spending time with them; my own quiet time … are all my motivations to find my true career.
I love finding smarter/ innovative ways of working, and I love the team I work in now. They are part of my motivation and my platform to practice everything I learn in theory.
These are some of our 21st century workplace values… innovation, and autonomy. I’d like to be one of those leaders to help drive this. I envision better visuals for talk on these values, because as much as the theory behind something counts, so too does the visual element count thats the designer talking). People like and embrace pretty things (look at APPLE MAC) so too should your visuals and appearances rise to the same value as the theory.
Success to me is as Winston Churchill puts it: “Success is not final; Failure is not fatal. Its the courage to continue that counts”.
Courage to continue… I like that
@Sharna Sammy – Totally agree. Love the quote!